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What can a wife do if she finds herself married to a harsh man? Pray earnestly for him. Seek to win him with gentleness. Share the burden wisely with others. Distinguish sin from personality. Approach him with hope.
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A few weeks ago, Pastor John Piper answered a question from a woman about how a wife should respond to a “harsh” husband. I thought Piper’s response was thoughtful, showed genuine concern, and sought to apply the counsel of Scripture to the situation. However, I still think there were a few deficiencies in the advice that he gave.